About Thomas



Founder | Counsellor | Straight Talker

Hi, I’m Thomas—counsellor, bloke, and someone who’s walked through the fire and made it out with a story worth sharing.

My focus is on helping men like you—guys who find themselves getting angry and frustrated and don’t know how to stop the cycle. And here’s why:

Over the years, I sat across from a lot of counsellors, trying to get my head around life. Good people, sure—but I couldn’t help noticing something missing: men. There just weren’t many male counsellors out there who got it. The real stuff. The messy, angry, grief-filled, punch-a-wall kind of stuff. That gap is what led me here—to become the counsellor I wish I’d had.

I know what it’s like to wrestle with your own mind. From my teens into my late 40s, anger was my default setting. I went through depression. I destroyed relationships. I found comfort in gambling, alcohol, cigarettes—and a solid helping of self-loathing. Honestly, I didn’t enjoy much of anything, and for a long time, I genuinely thought the world would’ve been better off without me in it.

What changed? A counsellor who finally saw me.

They helped me figure out why I felt like this—why I acted out, pushed people away, and kept sabotaging myself. That insight didn’t fix everything overnight. But it gave me power. Power to change what I could, forgive what I couldn’t, and walk away from the toxic cycles I’d been stuck in for decades.

And the more I healed, the more I saw other men going through the same silent war. Some of them don’t make it out. That truth hit hard—and it lit a fire in me to do something about it.

So I started PBYJ Counselling Services. In 2021, after the dust of COVID had left many people scared, disconnected, and running on empty, I opened my doors. Four years later, I’m still here—still listening, still helping, and still doing the work alongside my clients.

The ARMER Program

Out of all that experience, I developed something practical and powerful:
ARMER—Anger Reduction, Management & Emotional Regulation.

It’s a 12-part program built for people—especially men—who need help understanding and managing their anger. It combines emotional resilience training, one-on-one counselling, and a personalised anger management plan. Whether you're a guy in your 20s trying to keep your head in a relationship or someone in your 50s tired of blowing up and burning out, ARMER is built for you.

I run it in private sessions or in group settings (up to 15), and it’s been a game-changer for many of the men I work with.

Not after ARMER? No worries. I also offer personalised support for a wide range of challenges—grief, anxiety, depression, relationship stress, and just about everything life can throw at you.

You don’t have to do this alone.
I’ve been there.
Now I’m here.
For you.

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